I recently caught up with a friend I hadn't seen in a few months. I asked her if there was any news on the dating front. She said she went on a date about a month ago with a guy from Match.com. They grabbed a drink together and when the $12 bill came, HE ASKED HER IF SHE WANTED TO SPLIT THE BILL! I was in shock when I heard this story. For a decent first date, tip alone could be $12 and this guy asked her to split a check that totaled $12!
Where is the chivalry? Where is the effort? Where are the "proper" first dates? This was not a proper first date and I contend it wasn't even a date.
Takeaway message: Guys, if you ask someone out (especially for a first date), you are expected to pay. A few dates in, a good girl will offer to split or pay.
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Dissecting a First Date-What to Wear
Most importantly, your attire for a first date should be appropriate for where you are going on the date. Guys, you wouldn't want to wear flipflops to a nice restaurant and ladies, you wouldn't want to be in heels to go on a hike (by the way, a hike would not be my first choice for a first date, but I did go on a hike for a third date, once).
Second, you want to go fairly neutral and middle of the road. What I mean by that is, while there may be some unusual, attention-grabbing items in your wardrobe or jewelry collection, don't make a first impression with those items.
Next, put in effort...a little more effort than on a typical day. No one want to feel like you didn't care enough about the date to present yourself well.
Ladies, this one is really only aimed at you...I think most girls would agree (as would Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger), that there are some fashion trends that we love and understand, that men will never really get or appreciate. So, if your date is with a guy, dress for the guy, not for girls. Men are visual, so it doesn't take too much wisdom to realize that you should play up your best features--in a tasteful way!
Takeaway lesson: When it comes to a first date, put in effort, keep your attire appropriate and middle-of-the-road.
Second, you want to go fairly neutral and middle of the road. What I mean by that is, while there may be some unusual, attention-grabbing items in your wardrobe or jewelry collection, don't make a first impression with those items.
Next, put in effort...a little more effort than on a typical day. No one want to feel like you didn't care enough about the date to present yourself well.
Ladies, this one is really only aimed at you...I think most girls would agree (as would Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger), that there are some fashion trends that we love and understand, that men will never really get or appreciate. So, if your date is with a guy, dress for the guy, not for girls. Men are visual, so it doesn't take too much wisdom to realize that you should play up your best features--in a tasteful way!
Takeaway lesson: When it comes to a first date, put in effort, keep your attire appropriate and middle-of-the-road.
Friday, March 2, 2012
Help Wanted!
Help! I'm drowning in cheese! I can't take the cheesy emails that I receive from guys on dating sites. Look, I know it's hard to send that initial email, so I'll give them some points for creativity, but some of these are just too much.
I wasn't planning to share this one, but a few friends got a kick out of it (literally cracked up laughing), so I guess it's worth sharing! Again, since I didn't plan to share it, I didn't save the email, but it went something like this...I opened up the email and it basically said, "Congratulations! You've won a free toaster! Well, you haven't won a free toaster, but you get to talk to me, which is better!" I guess guys think they are employing tactics that will work with a certain type of girl...and I guess I'm not that type of girl!
Somewhat along the same lines is one I received today from a 36-year old guy in NJ. Pretty straight and to the point, the email simply said,
"Why don't we have plans for this weekend?"
Take Away Lesson: Gimmicks may work with a small percent of the population who can apprectiate the humor, but being genuine is probably the better approach.
I wasn't planning to share this one, but a few friends got a kick out of it (literally cracked up laughing), so I guess it's worth sharing! Again, since I didn't plan to share it, I didn't save the email, but it went something like this...I opened up the email and it basically said, "Congratulations! You've won a free toaster! Well, you haven't won a free toaster, but you get to talk to me, which is better!" I guess guys think they are employing tactics that will work with a certain type of girl...and I guess I'm not that type of girl!
Somewhat along the same lines is one I received today from a 36-year old guy in NJ. Pretty straight and to the point, the email simply said,
"Why don't we have plans for this weekend?"
Take Away Lesson: Gimmicks may work with a small percent of the population who can apprectiate the humor, but being genuine is probably the better approach.
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