Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

Do I believe in love at first sight? Absolutely not. Do I believe in chemistry at first sight? Absolutely.

How can you love something if you don't know anything about it (other that how it looks)? Love at first sight would be like saying you love a perfume just by the way the bottle looks. It's what's inside the bottle that determines if you love the perfume. How can you love it if you've never smelled it? How can you love it if you don't know how it mixes with your chemistry? Loving a person comes from knowing a person and that certainly doesn't happen at first glance.

Take away lesson: Don't mistake chemistry (which, don't get me wrong, you should have chemistry with someone) with actual love.

Safety First!

Recently, a morning radio talk show was listing off things a magazine (it may have been Cosmo) article suggested as first date ideas. Two of the ideas were either cooking or ordering take-out at your place or their place. Nooooo! If this is truly a first date (assuming it's not someone you've been set up with by a friend who knows this person very well), then this is a TOTAL stranger and your first date should definitely be in public. AND, you should drive yourself. When guys offer to pick me up for the first or even second date, I say I'll decline. It's a nice gesture on their part, but you need to be in a public place and have your own car in case you need to make a quick get-a-way (for any reason).

Aside from the possible risks associated with having a first or second date at one of your residences, there are other drawbacks to this scenario. Let's assume both you and your date are totally normal people without even a hint of "crazy" in you and there is no risk of danger. An at-home date just makes the chances of ending up in the bedroom, or on the couch, or really anywhere, for that matter, a little to likely. Hey, live your life as you see fit, those aren't the kind of first or second dates that I want to have. Nor do I want a guy who wants a girl who wants those kinds of dates.

Take away lesson: Assess the risk of situations and take measures to be in control of your own safety. You may be able to barely trust that the person is really single, so would you really entrust your safety in them?