I was left thinking, "Wow, this really takes it to a whole new level." But before I get to that...When posting pictures on your online dating profile (which I've discussed in other posts), one of the things I advise against is posting pictures of anything other than YOU! That includes lovely landscapes, cars, your dog, you get the point. My best guess is that these people want to show you their interests. Let's be real, people want to see what you look like. In your profile, you can tell us all about your canine "child" or your trip to Alaska. We'll ask to see pictures of those things once we start dating, which won't happen until I know if I'm physically attracted to you!
Here's where things really got out of control. I came across a profile with a few pictures. Mind you, there are a limit to the number of pictures most sites permit you to post, so it's not like there's an endless number of pictures you can post. This guy chose to use one of his photo slots for a picture of a squirrel. Yup, a squirrel. Albeit, it was some type of freak-of-nature white squirrel, which this guy seemed to think was pretty cool.
Some guys get it half right...they post pictures of themselves. The problem is, they also take the picture of themselves and it's usually in a bathroom. Yes, the seemingly ubiquitous bathroom mirror shot is really catching on. However, here's what took it to a whole new level. I found a guy who took the bathroom pic in a PUBLIC bathroom! Are you kidding me?! No, no, NO! No to the bathroom pics and a double no to public bathroom pics!
Take Away Lesson: On your online dating profile, the photos should only be of you...and shouldn't be taken in public bathrooms.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Sunday, January 15, 2012
A Little Overbearing, Don't You Think?
I was about to begin a series of entries disecting the first date (which I'll do), but had to share this first. I received the following email and knew it was worth sharing with you. I read it to a friend of mine and her reaction had me cracking up. It's a bit long for an initial email...and the approach is, well, you can judge for yourself. Oh, I think the post script is my favorite part!
Here it is, in all its glory:
"LOVED the profile , but would love to get TO KNOW the woman behind all this, pics, words mean nothing ( everyone just has different looks/styles), it’s like a little commercial of yourself, so do your best lol, im not uased to meeting women this way I am a very confident friendly person most of all warm so people graviatate to men/women who are like that! I am a very settled, secure stable guy, got my SH1T together 100% and would like a dynamite woman to share some time with and grow from that point. I truly believe we should be best friends, laughter, love, joy and peace. That’s me in a nut shell, So if you’re romantic, open, at a good place in your life and have the time for someone awesome, want to be treated like a lady, not be cheated on (always hated that)are traditional, have strong family values, ethics/morals let’s talk….Chivalry my dear is NOT dead! Just looking for someone normal and genuine. BTW- you have an absolutely adorable smile and should NOT be single…
Write back, don’t over think this, happy New Year, you deserve the best “hint hint” LOL
Love to hear from you - NAME
PS most importantly no-one is perfect we all have flaws, looks wise and personality if you’re not so rigid in your approach to dating let’s see if we have some compatibility and magic, - what am I saying don’t dismiss me or this email so quickly………
FINAL THOUGH - AND NO I DID NOT CUT AND PASTE THIS TO EVERYONE ON POF, I CHOSE YOU… I LIKE YOU GIVE ME THE SAME COURTESY BACK!"
Take Away Lesson: Don't put so much pressure on someone when sending your first email. Keep it light...express interest (respectfully) and ask a question or two to demonstrate further interest.
Here it is, in all its glory:
"LOVED the profile , but would love to get TO KNOW the woman behind all this, pics, words mean nothing ( everyone just has different looks/styles), it’s like a little commercial of yourself, so do your best lol, im not uased to meeting women this way I am a very confident friendly person most of all warm so people graviatate to men/women who are like that! I am a very settled, secure stable guy, got my SH1T together 100% and would like a dynamite woman to share some time with and grow from that point. I truly believe we should be best friends, laughter, love, joy and peace. That’s me in a nut shell, So if you’re romantic, open, at a good place in your life and have the time for someone awesome, want to be treated like a lady, not be cheated on (always hated that)are traditional, have strong family values, ethics/morals let’s talk….Chivalry my dear is NOT dead! Just looking for someone normal and genuine. BTW- you have an absolutely adorable smile and should NOT be single…
Write back, don’t over think this, happy New Year, you deserve the best “hint hint” LOL
Love to hear from you - NAME
PS most importantly no-one is perfect we all have flaws, looks wise and personality if you’re not so rigid in your approach to dating let’s see if we have some compatibility and magic, - what am I saying don’t dismiss me or this email so quickly………
FINAL THOUGH - AND NO I DID NOT CUT AND PASTE THIS TO EVERYONE ON POF, I CHOSE YOU… I LIKE YOU GIVE ME THE SAME COURTESY BACK!"
Take Away Lesson: Don't put so much pressure on someone when sending your first email. Keep it light...express interest (respectfully) and ask a question or two to demonstrate further interest.
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Do the Dating "Experts" Really Know Anything?
Two out of the three most well-known matchmakers in the U.S. are single. Often, they catch a lot of flak for it. Since love is not a science, is it something that anyone can really claim to be an "expert" in? What would the qualifications be? A degree in a related field? Demonstrated success in a relationship? Maybe none of us (myself included) really know anything about making relationships work and it just all comes down to chemistry, timing, and the grace of God.
Dating websites like eHarmony make statements about patented systems that yield great accuracy in making matches. Can a computer system really find you true love? Oh, and pretty much all the sites claim to have the highest success rates...I'd like to know exactly how that is defined.
And then there's the reality shows. Can everlasting love be found and solidified in the matter of a few weeks?
So why do we do it? Why do we join the sites? Why do we watch the shows? Because it seems that as much as we may get in our own ways, we do want to connect with someone and find love.
Take away lesson: There's no harm in trying, but chances are, it's simply going to happen when it's meant to be. And when it does, the success will depend on the two people involved, not whether or not an "expert" facilitated making the match.
Dating websites like eHarmony make statements about patented systems that yield great accuracy in making matches. Can a computer system really find you true love? Oh, and pretty much all the sites claim to have the highest success rates...I'd like to know exactly how that is defined.
And then there's the reality shows. Can everlasting love be found and solidified in the matter of a few weeks?
So why do we do it? Why do we join the sites? Why do we watch the shows? Because it seems that as much as we may get in our own ways, we do want to connect with someone and find love.
Take away lesson: There's no harm in trying, but chances are, it's simply going to happen when it's meant to be. And when it does, the success will depend on the two people involved, not whether or not an "expert" facilitated making the match.
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