How could you blow your chances before you even make your first impression? Several ways, actually. Today, I'll explain one.
A while ago, I was at work and saw the name and number of a co-worker come up on the display of my phone. Assuming it was a business call, I answered the phone. Well, it was a co-worker calling, but it wasn't a business call. She said she thought she knew a guy I might be interested in. She said she knew him for years and recently while he was having dinner with her and her husband, he spoke about wanting to "settle down" and get married. She said she immediately thought of me and showed him my picture on Facebook. She said he thought I was very pretty and assumed I must have a boyfriend. She told him that she and I hadn't talked in a while, so she would check to see if I was single these days. She then came to my office so that she could pull up his picture on Facebook for me to look at. I looked at his pictures and profile and everything looked promising! He was attractive, lived in the area, was in my target age range, was the same ethnicity, owned his own business,...even had a full head of hair... all systems were a-go! I gave her my phone number and email address so that she could give him my contact information.
She was kind enough to send an introductory email to us both, asking him to call me and providing my number.......tick, tock, tick, tock.....the phone is not ringing! A few weeks passed by and still no call; not even an email from him. At that point, my interest in him was gone. A guy should never sit on a girl's phone number for over a week without using it.
If you encounter a similar situation and you're on the one in my shoes, don't take it personally. These things happen and you'll probably never know the reason why.
Take away lesson: People may start to form impressions of you before you even formally meet or speak with them. Be conscious of what your actions (or inactions) may be saying to others.
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