Sunday, October 9, 2011

Be Genuine...Or, At Least Don't Confess That You're Not Genuine!

When I receive a first email from a guy on a dating site, I want to know that he read my profile. I want to see some evidence of him putting a little effort into the email. Comment or ask me a question about something in my profile to show that you're actually interested in something about me. It may be a move, but at least go through the motions!

A 38-year old in NJ wrote me this:
"Hi, I like your profile, and would like to get to know you. Now, before you say it.. Yes, this is a copy, and paste. I'm sorry, but I
just don't have the time to read everyone's profile, and craft an individualized email to all. I understand that women on (NAME OF DATING SITE)get bombarded with emails, and I am but one amongst the masses. I am however truly interested in getting to know you. So, if you check out my profile, and are truly interest, then don't hesitate to email a "hi" back. Once I received that, then I'd be more then happy to email you something that's definitely more personal than a copy, and paste.

Hope to hear from you soon."

I don't know if my favorite part is when he says he is "truly interested" in getting to know me or that he hopes he will hear back from me. The former is likely not true and the latter....well, that's one wish that will not be fulfilled!

Take Away Lesson: A girl wants to know that you are interested in HER, not that you're just throwing things against the wall to see what sticks! Put a personal touch on your communications!

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