The decision of whether or not you are someone who is truly open to dating someone with kids is a big one. I've gone back and forth on this, but know it's definitely not my ideal situation. Several years ago, I agreed to go on a date with someone who had custody of his young child. I thought to myself, "Ok, maybe he's mature (which is often a challenge to fine) because he's had to grow up fast and become a father." Turned out, he had a more active social life than I did as a single person! Bascially, his parents were raising his kid so that he could sleep late, have a leisurely cup of coffee in the morning while he read the newspaper, and hit the bars 3 times a week. So, I swore off dating guys with kids for a while.
Recently, I came across an online dating profile for a guy who was clearly, CLEARLY a dad. Let me start by saying that I appreciate being upfront about it and not concealing it, but this was over the top. His screen name had the word "dad" incorporated into it, so that was the first tipoff. His profile went on and on about how he and the kids are getting on just fine and which night of the week he could go on a date due to the babysitter's availability. It was far too much for me. On the flipside, it was an eye opener to get a glimpse into the reality of dating someone with kids.
Take away message: Getting involved in the life of someone who has kids involved in their life is a big decision. Think long and hard before you find yourself too far down the road.
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