In my years of dating, I've experienced a lot of dumb moves. Dumb. Really dumb. From time to time, I'll share some of these stories. However, as always, in an effort to try to keep a semi-balance between the gender issues on this site, I'm tagging the females for the first dumb move. Can't say that I've experienced this one firsthand, but I've had several guys relay this experience to me. It deals with an issue I've already tackled on this site--photos on online dating profiles. More specifically, the age of the photos on online dating profiles.
I have never walked into a first date and immediately realized that I was completely duped by old photos on his profile. Unless I've just been lucky, this seems to be a more common trick amongst the women. Guy after guy has told me that in their dating experiences, they've encountered situations in which after meeting the girl in person, it was very clear that her online profile had very old pictures. I always ask them them the same question, "Did you stay?" I can't believe it, but they've all said that they felt too bad to leave. If this ever happened to me, I would walk out with NO qualms about it. If someone has been deceitful, why do I owe them any courtesy? While the guys I spoke to were kind enough to stay, none of them were interested in a second date. So, really, where did you get yourselves, ladies? You may think that it won't matter because the guy will fall in love with your personality before he sets eyes on you. Even if in some fairytale land that actually happened, you've started off your potential relationship lying and not many people would stand for that.
Take away lesson: Cast yourself in a positive light; share flattering information and pictures about yourself. There's no reason to air dirty laundry on date number 1, but don't deceive people with old pictures. No one wins in this scenario.
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