The advantage of making someone comfortable on a date is that they open up to you. Yes, sometimes they will put their foot in their mouths, but that often reveals information you're better off knowing sooner rather than later. Case in point, last night's date. I was left thinking that I would HAVE to either be dumb or desperate (with really low self-esteem) to ever go on another date with this guy.
Towards the end of dinner, he started talking about an ex-girlfriend who was so jealous and had trust issues. (Everyone knows you're not supposed to discuss ex-partners on a first date, right?) He went on about it to the point that I asked if he ever gave her a reason not to trust him. "Wellll..." he said with a smirk. "I'm just a big flirt..." It got better from there. He told me that he dates constantly and even once he's reached the point of being "ehh, whatever" about the girl, he continues to date her because it's better than being home alone and bored. Gee, that makes a girl feel special! I'm so glad I learned about this on date #1 instead of #7, 8, or 9. There were some other red flags on the date, but this really sealed the deal. Bullet dodged.
Take Away Lesson: Take in as much information as you can on the first date. Listen carefully to how they tell you they've treated people in the past...it's likely how they will treat people in the future.
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